Learn the Secrets of Having a Smooth ESFP Relationship

esfp-relationshipsFor an ESFP, relationships are a great outlet for expending energy. These individuals love being around people, entertaining others, and living in the moment. The primary traits for this Myers-Briggs personality are: extraverted, sensing, feeling, and perceiving. These individuals account for just under eight percent of the population. Although this sort of character is definitely prone to acting on impulse, they also know how to have fun and to make the most of virtually any kind of situation – a trait that a companion is likely to find very appealing.


ESFP Characteristics


esfp-performerThe ESFP persona has rightfully earned the nickname “entertainer.” Charisma, wit, and generosity are traits that are deeply woven into this character. They are energetic, animated speakers who possess a warmth that makes them very approachable. People are drawn to “entertainers” because they have such an appealing and contagious attitude. Being around entertainers often leaves onlookers feeling better about themselves and life in general. When others around them feel good, ESFPs feed off of the “vibes” and become happier as well. Possessed with a dramatic flair and a solid sense of creativity, this individual would do well to pursue a career in the arts such as acting, painting, or decorating.


“Entertainers” display extroverted sensing as a dominant trait which accounts for their personable, welcoming aura. They are easy to talk to and are fairly good at reading other peoples’ emotional states (thanks to the sensing and feeling combination). ESFP wants everyone to feel as happy as they and if they pick up on distress or unhappiness in a friend, they will do whatever it takes to put a smile on their face. This persona is very good at being emotionally supportive to those who need a boost. In tense situations, the ESFP will also take on the role of peacemaker.


The “entertainer” has a keen eye for aesthetics and prefers to be surrounded by pretty things. This person will usually have a well-kept home that has been impressively decorated. With a fondness for art, the ESFP would most likely use sculptures, paintings, and other unique and eye-drawing pieces to decorate their home. One issue with this individual’s impulsive nature is that they may give in to the urge to spend money (sometimes large sums) on items that catch their eye. For those who can afford this type of spending habit the consequences will likely remain minimal; however one who cannot afford to spend large sums of money on impulse can get into serious financial trouble. This scenario becomes even more problematic in a romantic relationship.


Overall, this individual is laid-back and does not do well when subjected to large amounts of stress. ESFP prefers to take each moment by stride and can easily become overwhelmed if exposed to negative situations or unhappiness for a long period of time. The “entertainer” is likely to use mild excuses to ignore the underlying issue but in the end usually gets over these negative feelings and moves on.


male-female-symbolsESFP Relationships


It isn’t that an “entertainer” doesn’t like long-term relationships or that they are unable to make a commitment, but their impulsive personality can sometimes make it difficult to remain focused on their relationship. This type of individual craves fun and needs to have this desire satisfied in a romantic relationship. A dull or straight-laced partner may quickly cause ESFP to become bored which could cause them to inadvertently begin looking elsewhere for a more exciting relationship. ESFP also has a tendency to concentrate strictly on the present. This lack of foresight into the future may prevent them from attending to issues that could have a major impact on the success of the connection. As long as they have a partner who can keep a clear sight of what’s going on and bring up issues as they arise, ESFP will typically be willing to sort through any immediate issues.


Overall, this person is good-natured and very intent on making their partner happy. The “entertainer” goes to great lengths to ensure that their companion is having a good time. They like to keep the relationship light and fun. If their mate begins to pressure them to make a stronger commitment or to make a decision that will impact the not-too-close future then ESFP will likely back off and begin looking for a way out. Having said that, “entertainers” are generally accepting of affectionate displays although they may become irritated by excessive groping or clinging.


In a long-term aspect, the “entertainer” can be a very affectionate and fun-loving parent. Their love of possibility and excitement is often passed down to their children. They tend to be affectionate, open-minded, and laid-back. This persona is likely to encourage their child to develop a strong sense of self and independence. Although generally not interested in a strict and structured approach to parenting, they will not hesitate to dole out punishment when necessary and to confront issues as they arise.


compatibilityCompatible Personality Types


Extraverts like the ESFP tend to spend a lot of time engaging in conversation and activities with other extraverts, but where romantic relationships are concerned it seems that two personalities get along best with this persona: ISTJ (introverted, sensing, thinking, judging) and ISFJ (introverted, sensing, feeling, judging). The introverted sensing factor of these personalities complements the extravert nature of the “entertainer;” they serve as an intriguing challenge in which the extravert can draw out the closely-guarded feelings and values that make up such a persona. The “opposites attract” strategy does not only apply to drawing an introvert out of its shell – it also works well with the thinking factor versus the feeling one. Thinking individuals spend a lot of time mulling over information and facts whereas the feeling individual basis his or her opinions based on how pertinent information makes them feel. When working together, these traits can form a balanced and well-rounded relationship. On the opposite end, another feeling individual would have a firm appreciation of the ESFP’s emotional-based decisions and impulsiveness.



Relationship Guidance for the ESFP


Being an ESFP, you probably always have friends willing to hang out with you. You find it easy to talk to strangers and probably have no problem taking the first steps into a relationship. You love the feeling of bonding with another person and although you don’t have any great designs on the future, you do enjoy being appreciated and accepted. When looking for a partner, you’re initially accepting of virtually anyone unless they are completely sour and boring from the get-go. You can get a pretty accurate impression of another person’s intentions and with a little coaxing it wouldn’t take long for you to get a glimpse into their values. You might initially avoid individuals who are looking for a long-term commitment and in most cases, you might genuinely end up unhappy in such a relationship. However, don’t let the idea of commitment scare you off. Not all future-minded individuals are bent on pressuring a commitment out of their partners.


When you do enter into a relationship you will likely have the impulse to see to many of your companion’s needs. Making them happy also makes you happy. Some personalities appreciate the gesture but others may be tempted to take this for granted or to use it to their own advantage. As you have a difficult time leaving a relationship – even a bad one – it is important that you are able to recognize when you aren’t being treated fairly. It is equally important that you pay attention to your needs. It can be so easy to overlook your own dreams, feelings, and desires in lieu of accommodating those of your mate. Ideally, your partner will be willing to put as much effort into seeing to your happiness.


tipsTips for Dating an ESFP Personality


When dating an ESFP, it is important to remember that this type of person loves action. They are always looking for something new and exciting to undertake. Try to be open to these new endeavors and make sure that you don’t turn down too many opportunities with your partner. Your companion may become concerned that you aren’t a good match for each other if you never seem willing to accompany them on a new adventure. Eventually, your partner would become bored in such a relationship and may easily be tempted away by someone who can offer more excitement.


Your initial attraction to an ESFP partner would likely have something to do with the fact that they are completely engrossing. They have the ability to pull attention from all corners of the room with a story or a funny joke. This confidence and warmth is definitely an attractant but in some cases a partner may feel that this “routine” becomes old. One might be tempted to wonder if their partner is purposely acting in such a manner in order flirt with or attract the interest of other people. In reality, your partner isn’t jumping into the limelight because they feel that they always need to keep their options open (although in some, this may actually be a possibility). In most cases, these people naturally ooze congeniality and are happiest when they are making others happy. Don’t hold this against your companion.


An “entertainer” loves to see others happy and the person they most enjoy to please is a partner. You might be uncomfortable having someone spend so much attention and, in some cases, money on you, but this is the ESFP’s way of showing you how much they care. They aren’t the greatest at sharing their emotions through words, therefore they allow their actions to speak for them. This, paired with their impulsive nature, can lead to lavish gift-giving and grand displays of affection. Unless your partner is taking things way too far, try to let them express their feelings in a way that is easiest for them.